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How well is your radar tuned and ready to detect people possibilities?

We’ve all met them. They’re usually female – though not always. Often they’re already happily married themselves. They’re the people out there who naturally wire into people possibilities. You know the ones. As soon as they meet someone single, their brains begin to work overtime on the task of pairing them. They have a radar of sorts.

For many of us who’ve been single for very long, our radar doesn’t always function at the level we need it to – otherwise, we’d already be married or otherwise committed. I must admit that most days I am clueless to opportunities that married women I’m with quickly pick up on and point out to me.

All of this was brought back home to me when I read the book I mentioned in my last post Why Mr Right Can’t Find You By J. M. Kearns. He mentions specific examples of opportunities missed by singles. And it got me thinking. I’m always been fascinated by the stories of how couples met. I almost always ask any married gal I meet how she and her husband met. And, the one thing I’ve learned is that there is no one consistent answer.

That is why it’s so important to drive home the message that there is no one right way, right time or right place to meet that Mr. or Ms. Right. Hopefully, we’ve all gotten beyond fretting whether people will think less of us if we meet that right person through a dating service, matchmaker, online introductions or at a speed dating event. These methods are no less valid than traditional ways that people met like in school, through friends or family, church, work, etc. Once you accept this, the next step is to try to increase your awareness of your surroundings and the people possibilities in them. Think for a moment. How aware are you of the people in your everyday routines like commuting, lunching, shopping, refueling your vehicle, etc?

I used to hound girlfriends about going out to socialize. “You can’t expect Prince Charming to ride right up to and knock on your door!” I’d scold them. Well, that was until one day, when I was forced to eat my words. Imagine my surprise when I opened my door to let in the carpenter my landlord had sent over. Who knew Prince Charming did carpentry?

Yes, I still believe that it’s a numbers game and that if you throw enough against the wall, eventually something will stick. But now I’ve revised my theory about how important it is not to overlook what might be sitting right under you nose. Sometimes that very routine and the familiarity it breeds can work for you every bit as much as something more exotic.